In the next article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we are likely to bring kindness and unkindness to the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is related to humility and learning and unkindness is by using arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness which means they’ll eventually learn how to forgive all specialness that will be what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation pertains to everyone who’s the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in the mind once we repress our fear and guilt rather than forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others who’re really an integral part of us in reality.
You will find two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” For me, these should be required reading and continuing study for everyone who’s a significant Course student. The following passage says all of it:
Once you reserve the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course might be pared down to 1 simple rule: Be kind. If you’re not kind, then not merely are you currently not practicing the Course, there’s no way you may also begin to comprehend it. Regardless of how brilliant your comprehension of its metaphysics might be, if you are not being kind toward someone else, you are not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Regardless of this admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to truly practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been the absolute most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Decide to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness beneath the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The absence of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to all except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness cannot be understood here within the knowledge of dualism so long as specialness is continuously chosen since the ego hails from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to recognize this about the ego, and what all that thought system is capable of accomplishing, is something that hinders our progress with the Course. We should be willing to look at the ego with the Holy Spirit – the real Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing may be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also covers the source of a person’s unkind behavior is exactly the same fear (and repressed guilt) that is in our own mind and that is what unites us. We also have exactly the same right-mind and exactly the same ability to select between them. Choosing to be kind doesn’t make us different or better; rather this means we’re willing to apply the “kind principles” of the Course so that individuals can learn to comprehend everything it is teaching. It’s merely a question of priority.
He goes on to express that in learning how exactly to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one. They’re an integral part of you. You’re not different.” This goes right to the center of the ego’s thought system wherein the thought of difference is how the ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness may be the ego. What he says becomes clear if you actually study and practice the kind forgiveness of the Course!
A serious student of the Course wants to know what this means. These students prefer to be a pleased learner with the only true teacher – the Holy Spirit – rather than a spiritually special teacher of the ego in virtually any form a class in miracles.They’re happy to understand from Him how exactly to be free from the burdens related to denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure initially, because salvation isn’t understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you will lay down the burden of denying truth. This is actually the burden that is terrible, and not the facts (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there’s a difference involving the “Self” that will be our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This can be a key point to comprehend as the first accepts the event God gave us through being God-created; however the latter is self-created and completely determined by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they’re the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To take into account the possibly of this being correct and needing correction restores aspire to the mind as it points to the way out.
Whenever a spiritually special Course teacher (a type of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they’re being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they’re highly unlikely to see it that way. They’re also not likely to believe that it is kind for anyone to have boundaries together because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are so great. However, honestly considering the world, we see that it is filled up with the fragmented Sonship who’s anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant in the world along with in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we won’t learn the Course until we choose to be kind.
Our behaviors are the demonstration of which mind we’ve chosen (God or the ego). The ego is really a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it is tied right to kindness:
Without anxiety the mind is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom cannot be learned by tyranny of any kind (T-8.IV.7).
It can also be unkind to alter the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, a total thought system. If you believe you understand that, you don’t. Once you learn you do, you will automatically be kind for you understand the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It’s a question of priority.”